Indlala Yesikhumba, Ukulamba KweTouch, kanye Nokuncishwa Kwengalo

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• Izindlela Zokujabulela Induduzo Engokomzimba Lapho Uwedwa

Indlala yokuthinta idala ama-conundrums abuhlungu. Yize kunabantu abaningi abazizwa bengakhululekile ngokugona noma ukuthintwa abanye, kunabanye abaningi abafisa ukwangana okufudumele, ukubanjwa ngesandla, noma ukwangiwa okududuzayo. Izinga elikhulayo lokutheleleka nge-COVID lisenza ukuthi sicabange futhi ngokwanelisa leso sidingo sokuthinta njengoba sikala ubungozi bokuxhumana nabantu nokutheleleka ngegciwane.

Abantu babekezelela izakhi zangaphambi komlando ngokubopha ndawonye nangokuxhumana eduze ubusuku bonke — ukuze babelane ngemfudumalo yabanye futhi bazimisele kakhulu ukuvimba izinsongo zokudla. Namuhla, iningi lethu lisenomuzwa wokuthi isendulo sasidinga ukuzungezwa abanye nokuzwa umuzwa ojulile wokwaneliseka nokulondeka ngokuthintwa ngabantu. Lapho sehluleka ukwanelisa isidingo sokuxhuma ngokomzimba, ubuhlungu obubangelwa imiphumela bubizwa ngokuthi “ukuncishwa ukwangana,” “ukulamba,” “ukulamba kwesikhumba,” kanye “nokuncishwa uthando.” Noma yini esikhetha ukuyibiza ngegama, abantu bayazi ukuthi bayizwa nini.

Ukuthinta komuntu kuyisidingo esisemthethweni ngokomzimba nangokomzwelo, yize wonke umuntu enamazinga ahlukene okulangazelela ukuthintwa. Kukhona, impela, abanye abathandwa ukuthintwa ngokomzimba, ngakho-ke labo abajwayele ukuphonsa ibhele elikhulu bezungeze abanye kufanele bakhumbule ukuthi ukuthinta akufanele kuphoqelelwe kunoma ngubani futhi ngaso sonke isikhathi kungcono ukuqinisekisa ukuthi ukwanga kwakho kwamukelekile ngaphambi ukunyakaza kakhulu.

Izinzuzo zokuthinta komuntu ziningi futhi zingasebenza "njengenhlamvu yemilingo" yokucindezeleka ngokomzwelo. Ukuthintwa umuntu esimethembayo kunganciphisa imizwa yokuba wedwa, isizungu, ukucindezeleka, ukukhathazeka, ukudangala, nokuphazamiseka kokulala. Ukuthinta ngokomzimba akugcini ngokuthinta impilo yethu engokomzwelo, kepha ukuthinta okuqinisekisayo komunye nakho kunezinzuzo zomzimba, kufaka phakathi:

1. Ukuthulisa isimiso sezinzwa
2. Ukukhulisa ukukhiqizwa kwe-dopamine
3. Kunomthelela omuhle ohlelweni lwe-serotonin
4. Ukukhiqiza okhiqiza i-oxytocin, i-hormone ebophayo
5. Ukunciphisa ukukhiqizwa kwama-hormone okucindezeleka (i-cortisol)
6. Ukwehlisa umfutho wegazi nokushaya kwenhliziyo
7. Ukwenza ngcono ukuphulukisa nokunciphisa izinhlungu

Izingane nezingane ezathola ukuthintana okuhle ngokomzimba zazithanda ukukhombisa ukungabi nolaka njengoba zikhula. Kucatshangelwa ukuthi lezi zingane azidingi ukuzibandakanya ekulweni ngokomzimba noma ezingxabanweni ukuze zihlangane nabanye ngokomzimba. Ukwehluleka ukukhula ezinsaneni kungalandelwa emuva ekuthinteni okungafanele ngokomzimba. Emashumini eminyaka edlule, abacwaningi bathola ukuthi izinkawu ezisencane zithanda imodeli yocingo embozwe ngendwangu “kamama” kunemodeli yocingo enikela ngokudla. Silangazelela induduzo futhi lapho ukuzihlukanisa nabantu kuphazamisa ukugcwaliseka kwalesi sidingo, kungaba nzima kwabaningi ukukuthwala.

Izindlela Zokujabulela Induduzo Engokomzimba Lapho Uwedwa

1. Thatha ishawa efudumele ngempela futhi ujabulele ukuzwa okungokoqobo kwamanzi ahamba phezu komzimba wakho kanye nomusi oshisayo
2. Ukubamba inkomishi efudumele yekhofi, itiye, noma nje amanzi ashisayo kungaletha umuzwa wokuzola nokufudumala kwangaphakathi
3. Ukuthinta ukwakheka okujabulisayo — ingubo eyindilinga, amashidi aluhlaza, njll. — Kunganelisa ukulamba kokuthinta ngezinga elithile
4. Inhlama yokuxova kungaduduza futhi kuyanelisa ngokomzimba ukusebenza inhlama futhi uzizwe iphakama ngaphansi kwezandla zakho
5. Ama-lotion ayizintandokazi namabhomu okugeza anganikeza izinjabulo zemizwa
6. Izingubo zokulala ezinesisindo zikhule zithandwa futhi zinikeza umuzwa wokwangiwa
7. Zinikeze ukubhucungwa unyawo, ukubhucungwa ubuso, noma ukubhucungwa ngesandla ukuze uzwe umuzwa wokuthinta
8. Gijimisa unyawo lwakho phezu kwebhola lethenisi noma usebenzise okokuklwebheka emuva ukunwaya umhlane wakho

Lapho ungeke usondele kubantu obathandayo, ukuba nezilwane ezifuywayo ekhaya kungaba umuthi omkhulu wesizungu. Ukwamukela inja noma ikati kungahle kungagcini ngokunikeza ukwaneliseka ukuthinta indlala, kepha futhi kunganikeza ubungani obubalulekile. Uma uhlela ukuthola ingane, qiniseka ukuthi ubheka ukuthi ngabe ukulungele yini noma cha futhi uyakwazi ukuzibophezela esilwaneni-kaningi, ukwamukelwa kwamaholide kungaholela ezindlini ezigcwele ngokweqile ngemuva kokudlondlobala kweholide kanye nesigaba se-puppy / kitten.