Ukukhuluma Nezingane Ezincane Ngokufa

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• Nayi eminye imibuzo ejwayelekile mayelana nokufa nezinye izimpendulo zesampula:
• Iningi lezingane ezincane licubungula ukulahleka ngokuziphatha kwazo.
• Kuthiwani ngosizi lomzali?
• Siza izingane zikhumbule.

Izingane ezincane zidideka kalula ngokufa futhi zidinga izincazelo ezicacile neziyiqiniso lapho umuntu efa. Lokhu kuyiqiniso noma ngabe umuntu abamaziyo ushona ngokuzumayo, ngengozi noma ukugula okungalindelekile (umdlavuza, i-COVID-19), noma ukuguga. Abazali nabanye abantu abadala abanakekelayo kufanele basebenzise ulimi olucacile noluthembekile ukuchaza okwenzekile futhi baphendule imibuzo yezingane.

• Shono amaqiniso ngokucacile. Lapho abazali beqondile, izingane ziqonda kangcono. Bangasebenzisa ulimi olufana nokuthi, “UGrammy wagula kakhulu emaphashini nasenhliziyweni yakhe. Wayenenkinga yokuphefumula. Odokotela benze konke okusemandleni ukuthi bamsize alulame, kodwa washona, ”noma,“ kwashona u-anti Maria. Wathola igciwane elibizwa nge-COVID-19 (noma wayesengozini yemoto, njll.), Futhi umzimba wakhe wakhathala / walimala ngenxa yalokho yize wayemncane. ” Sebenzisa ulimi olucacile njengokuthi, “Uma umuntu efa, kusho ukuthi ngeke esakwazi ukukhuluma noma ukudlala. Asikwazi ukuwabona noma ukuwagona futhi. Ukufa kusho ukuthi imizimba yabo iyekile ukusebenza. ”
• Hamba kancane uphendule imibuzo yezingane. Abazali kufanele bazi ukuthi ezinye izingane zizobuza imibuzo, kanti ezinye ngeke zibuze. Iya ngejubane lengane. Uma kunikezwa imininingwane eminingi ngesikhathi esisodwa, bangakhathazeka kakhulu noma badideke. Eminye imibuzo yezingane iza ngesivinini ezinsukwini ezimbalwa noma emasontweni njengoba bezama ukuqonda okwenzekile.

Nayi eminye imibuzo ejwayelekile mayelana nokufa nezinye izimpendulo zesampula:

• Uphi uGrammy manje? Izingane zingadideka noma zithuke ngolimi olungacacile njengokuthi, “uGrammy uye endaweni engcono,” noma “u-anti Maria udlulile emhlabeni.” Ingane encane ingakholelwa ukuthi lowo muntu ukwenye indawo noma adideke ngegama elithi “uphasile.” Kwesinye isikhathi ukufa kuchazwa ngokuthi "ukuya ekhaya" noma "ukulala okuphakade." Izingane zingaqala ukwesaba imisebenzi ejwayelekile, njengokuya ekhaya ngemuva kohambo noma ukulala. Esikhundleni salokho, abazali banganikeza incazelo elula, efanele iminyaka ebonisa izinkolelo zabo.
• Uzofa? Yazi lokhu kwesaba, kepha bese unikeza isiqinisekiso. Abanakekeli bangase bathi, “Ngiyabona ukuthi kungani ukhathazekile ngalokho, kodwa nginamandla futhi ngiwumqemane. Ngizobe ngilapha ukuzokunakekela isikhathi eside kakhulu. ” Uma umuntu osemncane noma osondelene kakhulu nengane efa ngokuzumayo, kungathatha isikhathi eside ukubhekana nokwesaba nokukhathazeka. Iba nesineke. KULUNGILE ukuthi abazali bavume ukuthi kunzima ukuqonda ukuthi kungani izinto ezimbi zenzeka.
• Ngizofa? Thola igciwane? Unengozi yemoto? Izingane zingakhunjuzwa ngakho konke ezikwenzayo ukuze zihlale ziphilile futhi ziphephile. Abazali bangathi, “Sigeza izandla, sifaka izifihla-buso esidlangalaleni, futhi sihlala ekhaya kakhulu njengamanje ukugwema i-coronavirus. Sidla ngokufanele, silala kahle, futhi siya kudokotela ukuze asisize sihlale siphilile futhi siphile isikhathi eside. ” Noma, "Sibhinca amabhande emotweni futhi silandela imithetho yomgwaqo ukugwema izingozi ngangokunokwenzeka."
• Ingabe wonke umuntu uyafa? Noma kunzima, abazali benza kahle kakhulu ngokusho iqiniso bese bethi, “Ekugcineni, wonke umuntu uyafa. Abantu abaningi bayafa sebebadala kakhulu njengoGrammy. ” Noma, “Kwesinye isikhathi kwenzeka izinto ezimbi, futhi kuyadabukisa futhi kuyesabisa lapho abantu befa ngokuzumayo. Kulungile ukwesaba nokudabuka. Ngilapha kanye nawe. ”
• Ngingafa ukuze ngikwazi ukuba noGrammy / Anti Anti Maria? Lo mbuzo uvela endaweni yokulahlekelwa othandekayo wabo. Akusho ukuthi ingane ifuna ukufa. Hlala uzolile bese uthi, “Ngiyakuqonda ukuthi ufuna ukuba noGrammy / Anti Anti Maria. Ngiyamkhumbula nami. Lapho umuntu efa, ngeke esakwazi ukudlala ngamabhulokhi, noma adle u-ayisikhilimu, noma aqhubeke nokushintsha. Angathanda ukuba uzenze zonke lezo zinto, nami ngiyazenza. ”
• Yini ukufa? Izingane ezincane azikwazi ukukuqonda ngokugcwele ukufa. Abantu abadala bayalwa nakho lokho! Kungasiza ukunikeza incazelo elula, ephathekayo. Ithi, “Umzimba ka-anti Maria wama ukusebenza. Wayengasakwazi ukudla, noma ukudlala, noma ukunyakazisa umzimba wakhe. ”

Iningi lezingane ezincane licubungula ukulahleka ngokuziphatha kwazo.

Noma izingane zingakuqondi kahle ukufa, ziyazi ukuthi kwenzeke okuthile okujulile nokuhlala isikhathi eside — zisencane njengezinyanga ezintathu ubudala! Izingane zingahle zithukuthele kakhulu noma zinamathele kakhulu. Bangakhombisa nezinguquko emaphethini wokulala noma wokuya endlini yangasese. Lezi zinguquko zivame ukuba zesikhashana futhi zinciphe ngokuhamba kwesikhathi lapho abanakekeli bephendula ngomusa, ngokubekezela, nangothando olwengeziwe nokunakwa.

Abazali bangabona izingane ezisacathula zidlala imidlalo “yokufa”. Ezinye izingane zizenza sengathi zidlala lapho isitimela samathoyizi noma isilwane esigxishiwe sigula noma silimale futhi “sife,” mhlawumbe nangobudlova. Abazali badinga ukuqinisekiswa ukuthi lokhu kuyinto ejwayelekile. Izingane zisikhombisa ngomdlalo wazo lokho ezikucabangayo nezikhathazayo ngakho. Cabanga ukungeza ikhithi kadokotela noma i-ambulensi ekukhetheni kwamathoyizi engane. Abazali bangajoyina idrama yengane inqobo nje uma bebavumela ukuthi bahole umdlalo. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, lokhu kugxila kuzophela.

Izingane ezincane zivame ukubuza imibuzo efanayo kaninginingi. Kungaba nzima ngabantu abadala ukuphendula imibuzo efanayo ngokufa kothandekayo. Kepha le yindlela ebalulekile yokuthi izingane ziqonde okwenzekile. Izingane ezincane zifunda ngokuphindaphinda, ngakho-ke ukuzwa imininingwane efanayo kaningi kuzisiza ukuthi zenze umqondo walokho okuhlangenwe nakho.

Kuthiwani ngosizi lomzali?

Abazali bangazibuza ukuthi kulungile yini ukudabuka nokukhala phambi kwengane yabo, futhi kungahle kube nezakhi zamasiko ekutheni lokho kuzizwa kukhululekile. Uma abazali bethatha umoya phambi kwezingane zabo, kubalulekile ukuthi bachaze. Bangase bathi, “Ngiyakhala, ngoba ngibuhlungu ngokudlula emhlabeni kukaGrammy / Anti A Maria. Ngiyamkhumbula."

Abazali bangadinga ukukhunjuzwa ukuthi izingane ezincane ngokwemvelo zinobugovu futhi kufanele batshelwe ngqo ukuthi akukho kulokhu okuyiphutha labo. Lokhu kungabaluleka kakhulu ngesikhathi sobhadane lwe-COVID-19, njengoba izingane zitshelwa ukuthi azikwazi ukubona abangane bazo noma ogogo nomkhulu bazo “ngakho-ke sonke sihlala siphilile,” kanti abanye kungenzeka ukuthi bebeze baqonde ukuthi bangabathelela abathandekayo babo. (Izingane ezisakhula zingathatha izingcezu zolwazi mayelana nokufa bese ngephutha zizizwe zinecala. Zama ukuchaza "i-vector" kumntwana oneminyaka emithathu!) Uma usizi lomzali luba lukhulu, bakhuthaze ukuthi bathole ukwesekwa. Uma usizi lwengane lukhulu, luyaphikelela, luphazamisa ukudlala noma ukufunda kwalo, noma luthinta ukuziphatha kwalo kakhulu, lungadinga ukuxhaswa nalo.

Siza izingane zikhumbule.

Abazali kufanele bakhulume futhi bakhumbule ngomngani wabo noma ngelungu lomndeni nengane yabo. Bangakwazi ukugqamisa izinkumbulo zabathandekayo ngezindlela eziningi. Bangase bathi, “Masenze ama-muffin ayizintandokazi zikaGrammy namhlanje ekuseni. Singamkhumbula ngenkathi sibhaka ndawonye. ” Noma, “Ubabekazi uMaria wayehlala ethanda ama-tulips; ake sitshale amanye ama-tulips futhi simkhumbule njalo lapho sibona ama-tulips. ”

USarah MacLaughlin, uLSW noRebecca Parlakian, M.Ed., banikele kulokhu okuthunyelwe. USarah usonhlalonhle, uthisha ongumzali, futhi ungumbhali wencwadi ewina imiklomelo, ethengisa kakhulu, Ongafanele Ukusho: Amathuluzi Okukhuluma Nezingane Ezincane . URebecca ungumphathi omkhulu wezinhlelo ku-ZERO TO THREE futhi uthuthukisa izinsiza zabazali, eceleni kokuqeqesha abazali kanye nabasebenzi bezingane ezisencane.