Izinyathelo eziyi-12 nokuba ngumzali onengqondo: Izinyathelo 10 no-11

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Inqubo yokululama okuyizinyathelo eziyi-12 ifana kakhulu noKintsugi kuzo zombili izinhloso nomphumela. Ukululama okuyizinyathelo eziyishumi nambili kusiza abantu abazinikele kule nqubo ukuba baqine ezindaweni lapho boniwe khona.

Izinyathelo eziyi-12 zakha uhlaka loku: ukuzijwayeza izindlela ezintsha zokuxhumana nemicabango nemizwa; ukukhiqiza ukuziphatha okunempilo; ukusekela ukusetshenziswa kwezimiso zokomoya, ezinjengokwamukela, ukubekezelelana, ukuvuleka komqondo, ukubekezela, ukuthobeka, nokubonga; kanye nokwazisa amathuba angeziwe okuxhumana okuqondayo nalokho okungaphezu kwamandla akho — okuba ingxenye enkulu enkulu, yokuxhumana nabanye, kanye neyezwe. Zonke lezi zinzuzo zinezinzuzo ze-spillover zekhwalithi yokuba ngumzali komuntu.

Isinyathelo 10

Siqhubekile sazibalula, futhi lapho sinephutha, sasivuma ngokushesha.

Isinyathelo 10 siqala ngokubuyekezwa kwansuku zonke nokuzihlola kwezenzo zethu. Ngale nqubo, ngokushesha nje lapho sazi ukuthi senze ngezindlela ezilimazayo noma ezingasizi ngalutho, siyazazisa futhi sizibophezele kuzo. Isinyathelo se-10 siletha ndawonye izingxenye ezahlukahlukene zokuqwashisa nezenzo ozenzile kwezinye izinyathelo.

Ukuqoqwa kwesinyathelo se-10 kusho ukuhlola izenzo zakho kanye nokuphendula kwakho phakathi nesikhathi sosuku nokukhomba ukuthi yiziphi ezinempilo nezisekela ukululama, futhi ebezingenampilo futhi ezibangelwe - noma ezinamandla okudala - ukulimaza wena noma labo abaseduze kwakho. Lokhu kuzihlola kusebenza njengohlelo lokuxwayisa kusenesikhathi, kunikezela ngemininingwane ebalulekile maqondana nokuthi ungahlehla nini futhi kanjani.

Kukunika ithuba lokuthatha izinyathelo zokulungisa ngaphambi kokuthi ukuziphatha kwakho kwenzeke umonakalo omkhulu futhi kudala ukuhlupheka okukhulu kuwe noma kwabanye. Ukulungiswa okuqhubekayo okunjalo kungakusiza ugcine ukulinganisela kwengqondo, ngokomzwelo, ngokomzimba nangokomoya, kanye nokunciphisa izinkinga ebudlelwaneni nezingane zakho, ophathina bakho, abangane, kanye nabantu osebenza nabo.

Isinyathelo se-10 sakha ithuba eliqhubekayo lokugxila manje lokubheka ngokucophelela izimo zakho zengqondo nokuziphatha kwakho ngokuthi ziyasiza noma cha. Futhi uma unquma ukuthi ezinye azikho, ungenza isinqumo esiqondile sokuzishintsha — ukuqala lapha namanje.

Inhloso enkulu kulesi sinyathelo ukugcina ukuzazi kwakho usuku lonke nokulinganisela ukucabanga kwakho, isimo sakho sengqondo, nokuziphatha kwakho okwamanje. Ukusebenzisa isinyathelo 10, ngokuvamile — futhi kubhekiswe ngqo ebuhlotsheni bakho nezingane zakho — kufana nokuzihlanza njengoba upheka isidlo esikhulu: uma uhlanza lapho usula ikhawunta futhi ugeza izitsha namapani , ikhishi ngeke lilahlwe udoti, futhi ngeke ube nemfucuza emikhulu, neqobayo ukuhlanza ekugcineni.

Lolu hlobo lokuhlanza okuqhubekayo luzokusiza ugcine isiteshi esivulekile sokuxhumana nezingane zakho futhi unikeze isibonelo esihle kubo.

Isinyathelo 11

Besifuna ngomthandazo nokuzindla ukukhulisa ukuxhumana kwethu noNkulunkulu njengoba simqonda, sithandazela ulwazi lwentando yaKhe kuphela kithi namandla okukufeza.

Isinyathelo 11 sigxile ekusebenziseni ukuzindla nokuthandaza njengezimoto ukuqhubekisela phambili ukuqwashisa kwakho nokujulisa ukuxhumana kwakho okungaphezu kwalokho okubandakanya wena nobudlelwano bakho nabanye abantu nezwe. Isinyathelo 11 senzelwe ukukusiza ukusungula imikhuba yansuku zonke eqinisa amandla akho okusimamisa ukutakula — nobudlelwano obuhlanganisiwe nezingane zakho — ngezikhathi ezibushelelezi nezinzima.

Umthandazo nokuzindla kuyizimoto zokuxhumana "namandla aphakeme" womuntu, noma ngabe yiluphi uhlobo olungathatha. Zihlukile, yize zihambisana, izici zokuzibandakanya engxoxweni yezinhlobo. Ungase ube nokujwayela okuthile ngomehluko wokuthi umthandazo uyindlela yokukhuluma namandla aphezulu womuntu, kanti ukuzindla kuyindlela yokulalela impendulo.

Ukuzindla kukhulunywe ngakho isikhathi eside kokuningi engangikuthumele kubhulogi. Amasiko angokomoya emhlabeni wonke afaka izinhlobo zokuthandaza, futhi abasebenza bagcina ukukholelwa emandleni ayo okuphulukisa. Akunandaba noma ngabe usebenzisa umthandazo osuselwa enkolweni esunguliwe, imibhalo yezinhlelo eziyizinyathelo eziyi-12, noma uhlelo lokukholelwa olwenziwe ngokwakho, isenzo sokuxhumana nalokho okudlula wena yinhloso.

Inqubo yakho yokuthandaza ingafaka isakhiwo esisemthethweni noma iqukathe ukuxhumana okuqondile ngendlela yokuxoxa namandla akho aphezulu. Kungenzeka endaweni eyedwa noma ekuhlanganyeleni nabanye. Ukuthandazela imiphumela ethile imvamisa kuyisethaphu yokudumala.

Abantu abaningi abanesikhathi sokululama basebenzisa umthandazo ukucela usizo ekusebenzeni kwezimiso zokomoya (ngokwesibonelo, ukuthandazela ukuqonda okuvulekile, ububele, noma ukuthobeka). Abanye bathandazela amandla okubhekana nenselelo ethile noma isineke sokulinda umphumela wesimo bese bewamukela lowo mphumela — noma ngabe ungaba yini. Futhi abanye bacela ukuqondiswa ekutholeni izinhloso zabo ezinhle kakhulu neziphakeme zosuku oluzayo.

Enye indlela yokuqonda intando yamandla akho aphezulu njengezenzo ezihambisana nemigomo yokomoya yokwamukela, ukwethembeka, uthando, uzwela, uzwelo nokuthobeka. Ngokuphambene, “ukuthanda wena” kungumsebenzi wokunamathisela kokuthile okufunayo noma ukuphikisa into ofisa ukuyigwema futhi uyenze ngaphansi kwethonya lobuthakathaka bezinhlamvu (njengokuphelelwa isineke, ukungabekezelelani, isimo sokwahlulela, ukuzikhukhumeza, noma ukuzicabangela wena wedwa ) ngezindlela ezidala ukuhlupheka kwakho noma kwabanye, kufaka phakathi izingane zakho.

Umkhuba wesinyathelo se-10 wenza kube lula ukuziphendulela okuseduze nesikhathi futhi ulungise izinyembezi endabeni yobudlelwano babazali nengane, ngenkathi ukwenza iSinyathelo 11 kukhulisa amandla okuxhumana okuziqaphelayo nathi nabanye-okubaluleke kakhulu, izingane zethu.

Okuthunyelwe okulandelayo nokokugcina kulolu chungechunge ezinyathelweni eziyi-12 nokuba ngumzali ocabangelayo kuzoba kusinyathelo 12.

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