Yini Eyenza Umuntu Ahlale Embhedeni?

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"Noma ngabe amadoda enza muphi umbhede embhedeni, akungijabulisi ngaphandle kokusondelana." —Umfelokazi

“Umuntu olala embhedeni akaze afinyelele umvuthwandaba ngaphambi kwami. Inqobo nje uma engafinyeleli kuvuthondaba, unikela umzamo omkhulu esenzweni socansi. Ngemuva kokujula, ngihlala ngibona sengathi akathandi kangako. ” —Owesifazane oshadile

Iningi labesilisa lingathanda ukuzwa ukuthi "balungile embhedeni." Kodwa-ke ingabe into enhle kangako ingaba yimbi?

Ubuchwepheshe obususelwa olwazini kanye nokusondelana okususelwa kumzwelo

“Abesifazane bangakwazi ukwenza ama-orgasms mbumbulu. Kodwa amadoda angabakhohlisa bonke ubudlelwano. ” —USharon Stone

Ukuba muhle embhedeni kudinga izimfanelo ezimbili ezimaphakathi: Itheknoloji esekwe Olwazini kanye Nokusondelana Okususelwa Emoyeni.

I-Technique-based Technique ibhekisa ezicini zomzimba ezinjengokuthi ungamthinta nini umlingani wakho, kanjani, nokuthi ungamthinta kuphi, kanye nezici zengqondo, njengokuthi nini, kanjani nokuthi uzothini kumlingani wakho. Inqubo enhle yenza ukuthi amadoda alinde ngokukhishwa kwawo kuze kufike kuvuthondaba lowesifazane, noma aze akugodle isikhathi eside, ngaleyo ndlela evumela ukungena okuqhubekayo isikhathi eside njengamahora amaningi.

Ukusondelana okususelwa kumzwelo kuyinkimbinkimbi kakhulu futhi kufaka ukusondelana okujulile, okuhambisana nemizwa yokuhlanganyela. Ukuntuleka kokusondelana kuvame ukuhlotshaniswa nobulili obubi. Njengoba owesifazane oshadile esho: “Izolo ebusuku ngilale nomyeni wami kodwa akazange angithinte — uvele wangena kimi. Ngangidabuke kakhulu, ngangikhala. ” Ubulili obuseduze abufaki nje ukungena; kufaka phakathi imizwa emihle, esondelene phakathi kwabalingani.

Itheknoloji esuselwa olwazini isho inqubo eqhutshwa ngocansi noma indlela yokuziphatha, esetshenziswayo nengaguqulwanga kubo bonke abalingani, kuyilapho ukusondelana kuveza ingqikithi yothando — isibopho esiyingqayizivele phakathi kwabathandi. Le ndlela ingafundwa futhi ithuthukiswe ngokuhlangenwe nakho komuntu siqu nokutadisha. Kodwa-ke, ukusondelana akuyona into yokufunda, kepha ukwakhiwa ngokusondelana okukhulu.

Kunzima ukukhohlisa le nqubo — uyayazi noma awuyazi — kodwa kulula ukuyithola ngokwenza izivivinyo eziphindaphindwayo nokufunda. Kulula ukukhohlisa ukusondelana ekuqaleni kobudlelwano, kepha kube nzima ukukuqamba isikhathi eside. Abesifazane abazwelayo babona izimo zengqondo zamanga ngokushesha, noma ngabe inqubo esezingeni eliphezulu yenza ukuhlonza kube nzima.

Ukukhuthazelela Ukusondelana

"I-orgasm yami enamandla kakhulu kwaba lapho isithandwa sami sathi:" ungowami, nami ngingowakho '. ” —Owesifazane oshadile.

“Isithandwa sami esasishadile sanqamuka ngokomzwelo lapho sithola umuthi. Ijubane angishiya ngalo ngokomzwelo nangokomzimba lalilihle ngendlela emangalisayo. Nangempela washiya umbhede wayophuza okuthile wangabe esabuya embhedeni. ” —Umuntu ohlukanisile

Izici ezimbili ezibhekele ikhwalithi yezocansi aziphikisani: Umuntu angaba nenqubo enhle futhi abuye akhe ukusondelana okuhlala njalo. Noma kunjalo, inqubo enhle ivame ukuphazamisa ukusungulwa kobudlelwano obujulile.

Kunezizathu eziningana zalokhu. Okokuqala, abesilisa abazibona njengochwepheshe bezocansi banikeza isisindo esikhulu kunqubo yabo embhedeni, ngaleyo ndlela bathuthukise isithombe sabo. Ngenxa yalokho, bangakudebeselela ukusondelana. Olunye udweshu luvela lapho kuqala ukusebenza komuntu: abanye bajabulela ukuhlangana kocansi okufushane ngakho-ke, abanaso isisusa esidingekayo sokutshala imali ekwakheni ukusondelana okuhlala njalo (ikakhulukazi ngoba ubuchwepheshe babo budingeka kakhulu). Kungenzeka futhi ukuthi laba bantu babe ngongoti bezindlela zobulili ngoba besaba ukusondelana, futhi ngokufanele bafune ukuxhumana okuningi kwesikhashana.

Ukusondelana okujulile kwehlukanisa phakathi kocansi oluhle lwezothando nobulili obenziwa ukuthi kuhle kakhulu. Ucwaningo lukhombisa ukuthi isikhathi sokutshala imali ngaphambi, ngesikhathi, nangemva kokuhlangana kocansi sikhulisa ukusondelana nokuthandana. Kukhona ukuxhumana phakathi kwekhwalithi yobudlelwano nezinto zesikhashana, njengesikhathi sokuqomisana, isikhathi esisetshenzisiwe ekuhlanganyeleni ngokocansi, kanye nesikhathi semisebenzi esondelene ngemuva kokuhlangana.

Ukutshala isikhathi esiningi kuvamise ukuphikisana nenhloso nenjabulo yobulili bochwepheshe bokusebenza. Le ndlela iqinisekisa ukwaneliseka ngokushesha; ngakolunye uhlangothi, ukusondelana kunquma ukuthi uyafuna ukubabona ekuseni ngakusasa.

Ubulili bethu babungakholeki, kepha bekude nemvelo

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