Lapho Ubaba Eba Ngumuntu Ojaha Isiketi Esikhulile

Eminyakeni emihlanu edlule yokuphila kukababa, washintsha ngendlela ephazamisayo kakhulu engingayiqondi. Yimina ngedwa ingane, ngakho ubaba waphendukela kimi, cishe ngokushesha ngemva kokushona kukamama, ukuze angisize ekutholeni umphathi wasendlini — ngamalungelo. Ku-88 wayengakulungele ukuhlala yedwa, kepha isisombululo sakhe kwakuwukukhokha umuntu ozonikeza ubungani nezocansi. Icebo lakhe lalingasasebenzi ngokuphelele kubaba ocabangayo, onezimiso engangihlala ngimthanda futhi ngimhlonipha, owayekade, ngokwazi kwami, owayeshade nomama wami ngenjabulo nangokwethembeka iminyaka engama-60. Kungenzeka kanjani ukuthi umuntu onjalo, umuntu wesifazane, ngokuzumayo abone ukuthi ucansi lungumsebenzi noma yibuphi abesifazane abaqashile okufanele balindelwe ukuba bakuhlinzeke?

Incazelo elula, yokuthi ukuguga yayimenze wangcola, ayizwanga kahle.

Ukukhuluma ngakho akukhanyisanga. Lapho ngikhumbuza ubaba wami ukuthi phakathi kwezinye izinto icebo lakhe lalingekho emthethweni, wangisola ngokuthi ngingenanhlonipho. "Kade ukuphi? Awuzwanga yini ngenguquko kwezocansi? Kuthiwani ngama-geisha? Amanye amasiko anamalungiselelo. ” Ucezu lwakhe lokuqashwa oluyinqaba eceleni, ngazo zonke ezinye izindlela wayebonakala eyikho; izintshisekelo zakhe zazifinyelela kude, izimpikiswano zakhe zezepolitiki zazinamandla. Wayehlose ukuphila ngendlela ayehlale ngayo — ebusika eMexico, ejabulela imisebenzi nempilo yomphakathi yeklabhu yakhe yezwe laseWestchester — kodwa wayengenayo intshisekelo yokuthandana nomunye wabafelokazi abathandekayo abangane bakhe ababebaphakamisa.

Isimo safika singaziwa. Lapho ngihlela ukuthi sihlangane nabaphendulayo ngezikhangiso engangizikhangisa, waphatha izingxoxo njengeziqalo zokuthandana. Wabe esehamba ngemuva kwami ​​eyoqasha uchungechunge lweziphambeko ezingekho emthethweni ezangena lapho zaze zanyathela ngemuva kwezinyanga ezimbalwa zikhungathekile noma zisongelwa, kwesinye isikhathi zakhishwa ngabasebenzi abangama-911 bayiswa ewadini labagula ngengqondo. Akunandaba nokungahambisani okuhle kobuhlakani noma kobumnene, ubaba wayejabule ngokutholile kwakhe futhi wazama konke okusemandleni ukubasusa ezinyaweni zabo. Ukuthi ubaba wami okhaliphile angeneliseka ngabesifazane abantula kakhulu ezimfanelweni zikamama wami onomoya ovuthiwe, ophumelele manje kimi kubonakala kumangalisa kakhulu kunalezo zakhe zocansi.

Lokho okwakwenzeka kwakufanele kube sobala, kodwa kwakungekhona kimi. Futhi kwakungekho komunye wabangane engangixoxa nabo, yize abaningi babenezindaba ezifanayo ngabazali babo: umama olimi lwawo lwalugodlile, ubaba owayefuna ukwakha indlu nesifebe, ubaba owenza ipasi endodakazini yakhe -law, umama okhumule etafuleni lesidlo sakusihlwa. Wonke umuntu wakhangisa ukuziphatha, noma ngabe kwakucindezela kanjani, njengokukhathazeka ngocansi olujwayelekile kubantu abadala.

Njengabangane bami, ngangizithethelela. Mhlawumbe ubaba wami wathuthumela ngokushona kukamama futhi wayengenawo amandla obunye ubudlelwano sekwephuze kakhulu empilweni. Mhlawumbe wayene-nostalgic ebusheni bakhe futhi wayefuna ukusizakala ngokuthola kwakhe iziqu kwasekuseni. Abafana bazoba ngabafana, emva kwakho konke. Kakhulukazi, ngazama ukungacabangi ukuthi ingxenye kababa engathandeki, eyayifihlwe phambilini yayivezwa. Asithandi ukucabanga ngempilo yabazali bethu yezocansi (yize besingeke sibe lapha ngaphandle kwayo), ngakho-ke angizange.

Impendulo eyiyo kuvele ukuthi kade yangigqolozela ebusweni ngaso sonke isikhathi.

Nokho, ngemva kokushona kwakhe, ngafuna izimpendulo. IGoogle inikeze izixhumanisi zokulutha ngokocansi kanye nokuphazamiseka kokuya ocansini emakhaya asebekhulile, lapho iziguli ezinokuwohloka komqondo zingashaya indlwabu esidlangalaleni noma ziziphoqelele kwezinye iziguli, okukhala kakhulu nezenzo zikababa. Ukuqhubeka nokuqhubeka, ekugcineni ngathola izimpawu zokuwohloka komqondo kwangaphambili kwe-lobe: ukuvimbela ukuvimbela ezocansi, ukwehluleka ukwahlulela, nokwazisa ngokuziphatha okufanele. Ibhingo. Ukuxilongwa kufanelana kahle futhi ngokushesha kuchaze i-womanizer yokuxhaphaza ebenginenkinga nayo. Ubaba wayenenkinga efanayo yobuchopho njengabantu abasemigumbini yokukhumbula iziguli kodwa ngezinga elincane.

Kungani ngingazange ngikubone okusobala?

Amaqiniso ngokuwohloka kobuchopho besikhathi esedlule okuwulwazi olujwayelekile emhlabeni wokuwohloka komqondo asihambanga nathi sonke. Izingqondo zethu aziyeki ebuchosheni lapho sibona abazali bethu asebekhulile benza ngokungajwayelekile bezocansi. Futhi, kwathi nje lapho iqiniso lingishaya, kwabonakala kusobala. Bengingakuboni kanjani? Ngoba itaboo ibingivimba ekutheni ngibheke eduze. Futhi ngoba izinkulungwane zeminyaka, i-syndrome siyibumbe ngenye indlela.

Ngemuva kwakho konke, lo mkhuba ubukhona selokhu abantu baphila isikhathi eside ngokwanele ukuzwa, futhi indlela yokuyibuka yathuthuka lapho kungekho owaziyo ngokusebenza kobuchopho. Umbono “wendoda endala engcolile” ubulokhu ukhona okungenani kusukela kwabaseRoma. Isithombe esivamise ukubheda sikakhokho (i-leeringous grandpa) noma ugogo) sigcwele yonke indawo kangangoba siyasamukela njengengxenye ejwayelekile yokuguga.

Kepha, empeleni, asebekhulile abasakhathazeki ngocansi kunathi sonke, esinemicabango yocansi usuku lonke (yilokho okwenza uhlanga lwesintu luqhubeke, phela). Umehluko kuphela ukuthi sigcina ukwahlulela nokuzazi ukuthi singenzi kule micabango. I-atrophy yamangqamuzana obuchopho injengokushintsha komzimba njengokuwohloka kwama-neuron endlebe angaphakathi abangela ukungezwa kwezindlebe-futhi ngokufanayo akuhlobene nobuntu.

Kungabonakala njengokushintsha okuncane ukubona ukuthi isimilo esingafanele kubantu asebekhulile akuyona indaba yokusebenza kwengqondo kepha yisayensi yezinzwa. Futhi nokho lolo shintsho yilokho kuphela okudingekayo ukususa usizi lwezigidi zethu ezibona lokho okwehla njengokumangazayo nokuyihlazo kumzali osekhulile noma oshade naye. Ngomzuzwana nje, umuntu esimthandayo nesimthandayo ubuyiselwa kithi.