Ukufuna Abazali: Izindlela Ezi-7 Abalungile

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• Imibono yokuvikela izinkinga kwezemfundo ngabazali abalindele okukhulu.
• Ukufuna ngokweqile: lapho isiyalo nomzamo weqisa kakhulu
• Amaphutha angu-7 ajwayelekile atholakale ezimfuno eziphakeme zabazali
• 1. I-Overextension ayikhulisi ukusebenza
• 2. Ukungabekezelelani kwamaphutha
• 3. Ukweqisa kokufuna ukuphelela akulungile
• 4. Kwakhiwa okulindelwe okungenakwenzeka
• 5. Ukufuna okuningi kungadala ukungazethembi nokuzethemba okuphansi
• 6. Ukugxila ekuthobeleni kungadala ukuntula ukuzikhuthaza
• 7. Kungadala izinkinga ebudlelwaneni bomuntu siqu
• Izincomo zokugwema la maphutha
• Phelekezela kangcono kunokuyalela
• Yazisa umzamo wabo hhayi impumelelo yabo

Imibono yokuvikela izinkinga kwezemfundo ngabazali abalindele okukhulu.

Ukukhulisa nokufundisa ingane kahle akulula. Yize iningi labazali lifunela okungcono kakhulu izingane zabo, akuzona zonke izifundo ezisebenza ngendlela efanayo izindlela ezehlukene zokufundisa. Ngakho-ke, amasu ezemfundo asetshenzisiwe awahlali efanelekile ngaso sonke isikhathi ukufeza ukuzimela nokukhula okulungile kwengane.

Ukuvikela ngokweqile, ubushiqela, ukungaqondakali… konke lokhu kungaholela ekubeni izingane zenze umqondo weqiniso ongahle ungasebenzeli ukuzivumelanisa kahle nezimo ezibalulekile ezihlala kuzo. Phakathi kwazo zonke lezi zinhlobo zezinhlobo ezahlukahlukene zemfundo singathola isidingo sehaba, ezingadala izinkinga ezahlukahlukene ezinganeni. Ngalesi sizathu, le ndatshana izogxila ekufuneni abazali nezinto eziyisikhombisa abangalungile ngazo.

Ukufuna ngokweqile: lapho isiyalo nomzamo weqisa kakhulu

Kunezindlela ezihluke kakhulu zokufundisa. Iphethini yokuziphatha esiyisebenzisayo lapho sifundisa izingane zethu, indlela abazali nezingane abaxhumana ngayo, ukuthi bafundiswa kanjani, baqiniswa kanjani, bagqugquzelwa futhi bavezwa yilokho okubizwa ngokuthi isitayela sabazali.

Kujwayelekile ukuthi, emphakathini oqhubeka uketshezi futhi onamandla, imindeni eminingi ikhetha ukuzama ukufaka isiyalo kuzalo lwayo, izama ukugxilisa isiko lokuzikhandla futhi igqugquzele izingane zayo ukuthi zilangazelele njalo futhi zifinyelele ekupheleleni. Lezi zinhlobo zabazali bavame ukufuna ukuthi inzalo yabo isebenze, benze umzamo ongcono kakhulu kanye nokufeza zonke izinhloso eziphakanyiswe kubo kahle ngangokunokwenzeka.

Abazali abafuna ngenkani ngokweqile bavamise ukuba nesitayela sobuzali esinobushiqela, esibonakala ngokuba ngokuyisisekelo unidirectional futhi ayivezi kakhulu uhlobo lokuxhumana, esinokulandelana okusobala okucacile futhi enikeza imithetho ecacile neqinile, enikeza ukuzimela okuncane enganeni futhi ethula izinga eliphakeme lokulawula nokulindela okuphezulu kubo. Kodwa-ke, yize isiyalo nokuzikhandla kubalulekile, ukweqiwa kwesidingo kungadala ubunzima ekukhuleni kwengqondo-ngokomzwelo kwezingane, njengalezo ezingabonakala ngezansi.

Amaphutha angu-7 ajwayelekile atholakale ezimfuno eziphakeme zabazali

Ukusebenzisa imfuneko ngezikhathi ezithile njengendlela yokwandisa ukusebenza kungasebenza. Kodwa-ke, uma kuyindlela yokuziphatha engaguquguquki futhi engahambisani nokukhulumisana okusebenzayo kanye nokuveza imizwa ngokuhambisanayo, kwezinye izifundo lesi sitayela semfundo singaba nomthelela odala izinkinga ezihlukile zokuzivumelanisa nezimo.

Amanye amaphutha enza ikakhulukazi abazali abafuna ngenkani faka okulandelayo.

1. I-Overextension ayikhulisi ukusebenza

Ngenkathi ukukhuthaza umzamo nokwenza ngcono imiphumela kungasiza ukukhulisa ukusebenza ngesikhathi esifanele, ukugcina izinga eliphezulu lokufunwa ngokuhamba kwesikhathi kungaba nomphumela ohlukile: ukusebenza kungancipha ngokucabanga ukuthi ayilungile ngokwanele, noma ngenxa yosesho oluqhubekayo lokuthuthuka emiphumeleni etholakele.

2. Ukungabekezelelani kwamaphutha

Kuvamile ukuthi abazali abafuna ngenkani bangaqinisi ngokwanele imizamo yezingane zabo, kepha bebona ubukhona bamaphutha athile. Ngalesi sizathu, umqondo odluliselwa ezinganeni ukuthi iphutha liyinto embi, ukuthi kufanele ligwenywe. An ukungabekezelelani maqondana nephutha kwakheka kanjalo, okungaholela ephuzwini elilandelayo, ukuzalwa kokuphelela.

3. Ukweqisa kokufuna ukuphelela akulungile

Ukweqiwa kwesidingo ebuntwaneni kungenza izingane zizwe ukuthi lokho ezikwenzayo akwanele, azizizwa zanelisekile ngokwenzayo kukho konke ukuphila kwazo. Ngakho-ke, laba bantu bakhulisa isidingo sokwenza konke okusemandleni abo, befuna ukuphelela. Ohambeni olude, lokhu kusho ukuthi abantu abaqedi imisebenzi, ngoba bayaziphindaphinda kaningi ukuze bazithuthukise.

4. Kwakhiwa okulindelwe okungenakwenzeka

Ukukholelwa emathubeni akho nawabanye kuhle. Noma kunjalo, lokhu okulindelwe kudingeka kube ngokoqobo. Amathemba aphakeme kakhulu futhi angenakufezeka abangela ukukhungatheka ngokwehluleka ukuwahlangabeza, nakho okungaholela ekuboneni okungekuhle ngamakhono akho.

5. Ukufuna okuningi kungadala ukungazethembi nokuzethemba okuphansi

Uma ukufunwa kungalandelwa ukuqaphela umzamo owenziwe, ingane ngeke babone sengathi imizamo yabo ibizuze. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi bangaba nezinkinga ezinzima zokukhathazeka nokudangala, kanye nokuswela usizo okufundwe ngokucabanga ukuthi imizamo yabo ngeke iguqule umphumela wokugcina.

6. Ukugxila ekuthobeleni kungadala ukuntula ukuzikhuthaza

Ukwenza ingane igxile kakhulu kokufanele ikwenze kungayenza ingakunaki lokho efuna ukukwenza. Uma lesi simo siqhubeka, uthe ingane lapho isikhulile izokwethula ukuvimba imizwa futhi ukwehluleka noma ubunzima bokuzikhuthaza, ngoba abakaqedi ukuthuthukisa izintshisekelo zabo ebuntwaneni.

7. Kungadala izinkinga ebudlelwaneni bomuntu siqu

Izingane zabazali abafuna ngenkani kakhulu zivame ukufunda izinga lokufunwa kubazali bazo, futhi zikhiqize ngokuzayo. Ngale ndlela, kungaba nzima kakhulu kubo ukuhlangana ngenxa ye- izinga eliphezulu lesidingo abangazethula kubo bobabili nakwabanye abantu ebudlelwaneni babo.

Izincomo zokugwema la maphutha

Izici ezicashunwe kuze kube manje ikakhulu zibangelwa ukuba khona kwengcindezi ephezulu nokulindelwe, ukungabekezelelani kwamaphutha kanye nokuntuleka kokuqina kokuziphatha komuntu. Kodwa-ke, iqiniso lokuthi ungumzali onzima akusho ukuthi lezi zinkinga ziyavela, futhi zikhona kungagwenywa ngokuxhumana okwanele nokukhuluma okungokomzwelo. Amanye amathiphu noma izincomo uma kukhulunywa ngokugwema ukusilela okubonisiwe kungaba okulandelayo.

Phelekezela kangcono kunokuyalela

Ingcindezi lezi zingane ezizwa iphezulu kakhulu, kwesinye isikhathi behluleka ukwenza lokho abebengathanda ukukwenza ezingeni labo abafuna ukubathanda. Ukugwema lokhu, kunconywa ukuthi okulindelwe okudluliselwa ezinganeni kube ngokoqobo futhi kulungiswe amandla akhonjiswa ngumntwana, ukugwema ukweqisa.

Mayelana nokungabekezelelani kwamaphutha, lokhu akwenzeki uma ingane okukhulunywa ngayo ifundiswa ukuthi ukwenza amaphutha akukubi noma akusho ukwehluleka, kepha kunalokho kuyithuba lokuthuthuka nokufunda. Futhi nokuthi noma kwenzeka ukwehluleka, lokhu akusho ukuthi bayeke ukubathanda.

Yazisa umzamo wabo hhayi impumelelo yabo

Ingxenye enkulu yenkinga eveliswa yilolu hlobo lwemfundo yiyona ukwehluleka ukwazisa umzamo owenziwe. Isixazululo ukubheka ukubaluleka komzamo owenziwa yizingane, noma ngabe ithini imiphumela, nokusiza lo mzamo ufinyelele kwizithelo. Lokhu kubaluleke kakhulu lapho ingane yenza umsebenzi ngendlela efanele, lapho kwesinye isikhathi ingazibongi njengokuthile okujwayelekile nokulindelekile.

Ukuzethemba emakhono ezingane kubalulekile ukuze ubakhuthaze futhi wandise ukuzethemba kwabo. Ukuze ungehlisi amandla ezingane, kuyanconywa ukuthi uma kukhona okuthile ofuna ukukulungisa, zama ukukukhombisa ngendlela enhle futhi ngaphandle kokuthola ukugxekwa, noma nhlobo, kugxile emsebenzini noma enhlosweni .