Ingabe Uzophinde Abulale?

Muva nje, uCatherine May Wood ukhululwe ejele likahulumeni eFlorida, esebenze isikhathi sakhe sokubamba iqhaza ekubulaweni kwabantu abahlanu esikhungweni sabadala base-Alpine Manor eMichigan. Eminyakeni engama-57, ungomunye wababulali abangajwayelekile abavunyelwe ukubuyela emphakathini.

Abantu abaningi bathukuthele, bezwakalisa umbuzo obalulekile: Ingabe uzophinda futhi?

UMnyango Wamaphoyisa Asethathe Umhlalaphansi Sgt. URoger Kaliniak, ophenye uWood, uphakathi kwalabo abakholelwa ukuthi usayingozi. "Ungumbulali obulalayo futhi angaphinda futhi," utshele izintatheli, "futhi iningi labo liyakwenza lokho."

Kepha ukuhlolwa kwakhe kubanzi kakhulu. Ababulali ababulalayo bahluke kakhulu ezinhlosweni nasekuziphatheni kwabo kunokuvumela kwakhe ukuphawula. Amathuba engozi yesikhathi esizayo, kuleli cala, axhunyaniswa kakhulu namandla weqembu kunababambiqhaza abangabodwana. Akuwona wonke umuntu obulale njengengxenye yeqembu lezigebengu ebezokwenza lesi senzo ukube bebengakaze bahlangane nomunye umuntu.

Ake sibheke ukuthi kwenzekani.

Ngokusho kukaWood, indaba yakhe eyaba yirekhodi eliyinhloko lezomthetho, kwakunguGwendolyn Graham, umlingani wakhe, owethula udaba lokubulala. UWood uchaze ukuthi babedonseke kanjani ngokocansi futhi babeprakthiza i-asphyxia yezocansi ukufeza ama-orgasms amakhulu. Imidlalo yabo yezocansi yayihlanganisa izithombe zonya. Ukhuluma nje ngokubulala, uthe, babavusile. Ekugcineni, banquma ukukwenza. Babedlala umdlalo we-M-U-R-D-E-R.

Kusebenze kanjena: isikhungo, lapho bekuqashwa khona laba ababili, besisebenzisa incwadi ukuqopha amagama eziguli ezifile noma ezikhishiwe. UWood noGraham bahlela ukubulala iziguli ngendlela ethile ukuze isibalo sokuqala samagama okugcina eziguli eziyisithupha, uma sifundwa phansi ekhasini, sichaze UKUBULALA. Kungaba ihlaya labo eliyimfihlo. NgoJanuwari 1987, baqala.

Kodwa-ke, umdlalo wakhombisa ukuba yinkimbinkimbi kakhulu, ngakho-ke bakhetha iziguli okuzoba lula ukuzibulala zingatholakali, njengalezo eziphethwe ukuwohloka komqondo. UWood uthe ubemi ebhekile njengoba uGraham ebhula izisulu. Kepha ngenkathi uGraham ecindezela uWood ukuthi athathe iqhaza elibonakalayo ekubulaweni, wenqaba.

Ubudlelwano babo baphela ngenkathi uGraham eshiya umbuso. Ekugcineni, babanjwa kwathi uWood wavula uGraham esivumelwaneni sokuncenga, yize abanye ababemazi uWood bekholwa ubengathanda kube ngungqondongqondo. Kaliniak wacabanga kanjalo ngaleso sikhathi, futhi ngokusobala namanje. (Izitatimende zakhe zingatholakala ku-akhawunti yobugebengu beqiniso, Phakade Nezinsuku Ezinhlanu .)

Amaphesenti angaphezu kwangu-20 ezehlakalo zokubulala ezihilela amaqembu, kusho isazi sobugebengu u-Eric W. Hickey. Uhlaziye izitayela zababulali abangaphezu kuka-500 kusukela ngekhulu le-19 kuye kowezi-2011. Kodwa-ke noma ngabe ukwakheka kanjani, okunamandla kuyadlala. “Ngaphandle kokukhetha,” kusho uHickey, “wonke amaqembu ezigebengu ayenomuntu oyedwa owayekwazi ukulawula ngokomqondo.”

U-Al Carlisle owayeyisazi sokusebenza kwengqondo ejele wavuma. “Ubudlelwano phakathi kombulali oqavile nomlandeli wakhe othobekile bubonakala ngokwethembana okukhulu. Umuntu ovelele udinga ukwethembeka okuphelele komlandeli ukuze aziqinisekise. Umlandeli othobekile udinga amandla negunya lomuntu ophethe, ngakho-ke uzama ukuba yisithunzi salowo muntu nokulingisa izinkolelo nokuziphatha komuntu ovelele. Ngamunye uthola ukulungiswa komunye. ”

Imibhangqwana ebulala iqembu njengoGraham noWood, engibhale ngayo lapha, landela iphethini ejwayelekile: Abantu ababili bayahlangana, bazizwe beheheka kakhulu, futhi bazakhela ukujwayelana okuseduze okubandakanya imicabango yocansi - ngisho nodlame. Uma ishukunyiswa, lesi sibopho sikhuthaza ukulingisa.

Uma abalingani benza ubugebengu obunodlame ngaphandle kokubanjwa, baba nesibindi. Manje banemfihlo eletha injabulo yomunye nomunye. Lokhu kukhulisa amathuba okuthi bazame futhi. Ukwenza lokhu ndawonye kwehlisa isibopho kumuntu ngamunye, futhi bangaqinisa injabulo abayitholayo ngenkathi bedlala icala noma besaba ukuboshwa. Izici zesici seqembu zibe yisisusa.

NgoSepthemba 20, 1989, ijaji lagweba uGraham ngamacala amahlanu okubulala ngezinga lokuqala nelilodwa lokuhlela ukubulala. Wadonsa odilikajele abayisithupha, engakhishwa noshwele. Indima kaWood yehliselwe phansi “ekubukeleni ngezikhathi ezithile.” Walivuma icala lokubulala esezingeni lesibili futhi wathola isigwebo seminyaka engama-20-40.

Eminyakeni edlule, uWood weza ukukhululwa amahlandla amaningi, kepha iBhodi kaMarole Parole yakuphika, yathola ukuthi untula ukuzisola futhi usengaba yingozi.Imindeni yezisulu ibikhuluma kakhulu ngokukhishwa kusenesikhathi. Kodwa-ke, imvume yanikezwa ngo-2018 kanti manje uWood usephumile.

Ngakho-ke, ingabe uzobulala futhi? Ayini amathuba? Kumele sicabangele izimo.

Ngoba indima kaWood isalokhu ingacaci - ngabe wayengungqondongqondo weqiniso noma wayengumuntu nje ohambisana ngokuvumelana nemithetho? - Kunzima ukuhlola usongo olungaba khona.

Kodwa-ke, uWood mdala kakhulu manje, usejele amashumi amathathu eminyaka, futhi angaqaphela ukuthi ukugcina iphrofayili ephansi kuzomsebenzela kangcono kunomunye umjikelezo wezenzo zobugebengu. Noma ngabe ubengungqondongqondo, ukuhlaziywa kwamathuba kuphakamisa ukuthi ukuze amandla afanayo okugqugquzela adlale, uzodinga umlingani osondelene naye onezifiso ezifanayo futhi uzodinga izisulu zokufinyelela kalula. Unemikhawulo yoshwele okwamanje evimbela lokhu, futhi usezingeni eliphezulu kakhulu ukuthola umsebenzi ezikhungweni zokunakekelwa kwezempilo noma ngabe le mingcele isusiwe. Kungenzeka angazisoli, kodwa lokho akwanele ukugqugquzela ukubulala. Ngakho-ke, usongo lokuvuselelwa kungenzeka luphansi.

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